The Monkey

The Monkey


BOSSPosted by The Monkey Sun, January 07, 2018 13:13:32

Should you be the boss, the boss-friend or more of a friend then a boss?

The answer will and should always be: "You should always take the roll of THE BOSS" (if that's who you are) at work.

To avoid conflicts and unnecessary arguments in the future, it's better for you both if you sit down, (no matter if it's a friend or someone you don't know that you are about to hire), and set the ground rules for your soon to be working relationship from the start.

If your employee knows what you expect from them from the beginning then you are less likely to run into problems down the road.

Just remember:
You should keep in mind that you are their boss first and that your friendship from now on will come on second place. Then think twice, is it worth hiring a friend and take the chance of loosing that friendship.

If you choose to go down the friendship path with your workers then you put a lot of pressure on yourself. This friendship will come with a great deal of censorship, everything work related will be of limit.

It can be hard to keep up the appearance of "boss and employee" at work if you have a friendship going on outside work. This could end up being more of an headache then you asked for.
Ask yourself is it worth it.

Don't let other coworkers feel left out. Include everyone at the workplace in this friend circle of yours. To avoid conflicts and jealousy treat everyone the same.

Do not get to personal, no matter what you think being friends make being the boss so mush harder. It's at tip tap toe dance around the do's and don'ts.
Keep your social media accounts to yourself.

I could go on and on about this boss and employee friendship and how to handle it, but to me personally its a big NO NO. They almost never end well and you are the boss for a reason. There is a reason why they say don't mix business with pleasure.


BOSSPosted by MM The Monkey Sat, December 30, 2017 16:11:56

I might sound easy. Be the BOSS and make everybody do what they are suppose to do. Yeah!, it does sound easy. Only that it's not that simple. Most people don't like their boss. Their might have been a time in life were you didn't like yours and why was that. Leadership, not everybody has that skill.

To be a good boss you need to be a good leader.


We all might think that being a boss and a good leader comes hand in hand.

I am sorry to say that is wrong.

A boss means that your in charge of a company, department, team or organization, where you assign tasks and make the decisions.

A leader has to inspire others to do their best by leading by example. He/She keeps everybody focused, motivated and on the right path working towards the main goal.

If your that person with both abilities or if have you found that person to lead your team. your lucky. Your are on your way to success.


1. TRUTH. Always tell the truth. There have to be trust between the boss and his/her employees. They have to trust that you will have their back while in return you can trust them to do their best.

a. Learn not to judge to fast, sometimes you have to see to the motives behind the action.

b. Gossip don't belong in a workplace. Make that clear from the start, don't talk about someone who's not present. Personal information told to you in confidence should stay confidential.

c. Show that you are a reliable person. Finish your own work on time and don't ask others to do the boring tasks for you.

d. If you know your employee struggle and have a hard time, don't be afraid to offer a helping hand. It will benefit both of you.

2. RECOGNITION. Everybody have the need of feeling appreciated for what they do, and as their boss, one of your responsibilities is to give that recognition. It will create loyalty and satisfaction among your employees, witch will lead to better productivity. Your team will walk that extra mile with and for you when given credit when earned.

3. PREDICTABLE. If you say something, do it. If you set a goal, don't change your mind back and forth. When a change is necessary it should be done openly and within a timely manner. This way you make your team members motivated and secure within the role given.

4. TEAM SPIRIT. The good boss, keeps in mind that the team relay on its unique members. See each member for who he/she is. Communication and and team meetings will keep up the good spirit. Everyone should be heard. Positives and negatives should be discussed, both within the team and with each individual member of it. Invest in each one to get the maximum performance from the whole team.

5. TRANSPARENT. Be you. Some tend to put on a mask and try to show themselves better then they are, This only works for so long. We all have flaws, its the way you chose to handle them that determines how they will look at you. You can like any human make mistakes, just make shore you own up to them. That will make your team stronger and its members more confident in you as their leader.

6. POSITIVE. To achieve you must believe. If you don't think you can, no one else will either. It's your job as a boss and leader to motivate your team and the best way to do that is to stay positive. There is no use to stay hung up on something that went wrong or turned up to be a big disaster. Make shore from day one that if things like this happens, that you should be the first one to know but remember that it should come to all members attention so that a solution for the problem or situation can be worked on. You might not always have the answers, but the person next to you might have the answer to one of them.

7. LEARN. Watch and learn, if not everything, learn a little bit about your team member and what they do. Knowledge is power. This way you can see a mile away when something is about to take a wrong turn or when 100% is not given, find out why and correct it in time. Never stop learning. Keep your team members and your self up to date. Both as individuals and as a team. Courses, seminars and events, keep the opportunity to learn available to the members. Let them know that, even if its not financial possible right now, that you want to know if they find something out there that will enhance their skills. If they grow, you grow.

8. CREDIT. Again. Just because you are the boss does not mean that you should have or take all the credit. If its a team effort, then give it to them. If its a single members effort then acknowledge that. You are the boss and their leader, if they succeed then you have been successful. Sooner or later you will get your own credit for your leadership skills.

9. HIGH HORSE. Never forget who you were and where you came from.

You might be the most important person within the company or on the planet for that matter, but you didn't get there all by yourself. Stay humble.


BOSSPosted by MM The Monkey Sat, December 30, 2017 16:09:10
If you do not get along with your boss, it can seem like your life is a living hell. Even if you and your boss goes separate ways, what happened before that might still hunt you.

To constantly be the target for someones disapproval can make the strongest mind brake. To have someone point out your flaws all the time instead of seeing and appreciating your efforts can have you doubt your own capabilities. If you start doubting, thinking about yourself as "worthless" its time for you to move on.

You were hired for a reason, and that reason was not to be someones punching bag. I want you to know that you are not alone. Sadly its more common than you think. Stress causes illness, if its bad enough sometimes even death by suicide. Horrible but never the less a reality.

People can only hurt you if you let them. Why should anyone be allowed to hurt you, most of the time its not even about you.

If you feel that your job drain you and your staying simply because your afraid of what will happen once you walk out that door, then think twice. There are options and solutions to almost everything. If you have read this far, then you are looking for one right now.

Take a step back and look at your life. Is this what you want, or do you want something else. I guess you like me, want to wake up in the morning with a smile on your face, feeling that what you do means something.

Things happens for a reason.

Some people I meet says its to late for them, they are to old, or soon to be retired and don't want the fuss that comes with learning a new skill or to start their own business. In their head life is more or less over and the lot they were given is all there is. Financial responsibilities can also scare one from taking the step out of a bad and stressful situation.

A lot of people have skills and experiences that others would pay them to to teach.

Answer those questions:

1. If you could do whatever you wanted right this moment, what would you do?

2. Are you living your dream?

4. Where do you see yourself 3 years from now?

5. What if today was the last day of your life, how would you spend it?

Five questions witch answers I hope will lead to a better, brighter and happier future for you.

To start living your life without your ex-boss.

Even if its not easy you should forgive and forget. Why?, your not really living when you hold a grudge. The sooner you can let go of your negative feelings associated with your ex-boss the better things in life will go for you.

Defeat your enemy with kindness.

The world is only so big, so the chance of you running in to your former boss do exist. Make sure you and your ex-(pain in the ...)boss end things in friendship. Send a mail with a thank you for the experience of having the chance to work for him/her. (If nothing else it thought you what you don't want for yourself in life). Send with it your contact information, even if you never get a response you raised above the treatment you got. Consider yourself the winner.

One more thing. Nothing good will ever spring from you talking bad about your ex-boss. Your finally out of there. Its all about you from now on. If your not your own boss next, communicate with the new one to build a good relationship from the start. Things can only get better from here.

Good Luck